Why I haven’t made any new year’s resolutions

Every year for the last couple of years, towards the end of December during that weird week where we’ve just had Christmas and all concept of time is lost as every day blurs into one (much like the whole of 2020 for me really). I always find myself heading towards the notes section on my phone to reflect on the year’s resolutions I made an admittedly feeling a bit shitty about the ones I didn’t reach but repeating the cycle anyway.

My resolutions are always similar; ‘lose weight’, ‘read XX amount of books’, ‘visit X amount of places’, ‘earn more money’, ‘drink more water’. All of which I know I’m either not going to hit or frankly need more than a year to do so. I guess I set them to feel like I am actively trying to better myself the following year, feel motivated and give me some hope (wowza this just got deep).

But this year when I went to jot down my 2021’s resolutions, I just thought nah I’m not going to do it to myself and here’s why…

WHY AM I WAITING FOR THE NEW YEAR TO MAKE ANY CHANGES?

I know I’m not the only one that says, ‘I’ll start again Monday’ or ‘I’ll try that next month’. For some bizarre reason, I think waiting a couple of weeks or days to start a new goal means I’ve got a better chance of completing it. But we all know that’s a lie, waiting means I’m giving myself time to back out, which spoiler alert, I always do. My newfound mentality is if I want to make a change, do it then and now, just start. There never is a perfect time to do anything, you just have to make time for it (feel like I’m giving a Ted Talk to myself here but I’m here for it).

I NEARLY ALWAYS FAIL THEM

Every year I make around 10 -15 goals and the pass rate is probably 30%. I’m not great at maths but even I know that’s not great odds. I always start the year feeling optimistic and for the most part keep at it and then I don’t see any benefits or know I can’t sustain it and then I end up giving up and failing. I know I don’t help myself by setting big general goals (‘drink more water’ is pretty vague past Alisha) but I just realised the whole thing is pretty self-destructive. It’s not helpful and leads me to my next point…

IT MAKES ME FEEL RUBBISH

From my personal experience when I don’t reach a goal or resolution, I end up beating myself up over it and end up feeling unmotivated, which is quite literally the opposite effect the new year’s resolutions are supposed to have. So, knowing I’m going to fail them 2 weeks in why even bother, I may positively start the new year and just not set any.

I FORGET ABOUT THEM

I’m not being funny, but I can’t even remember what I had for dinner last week, let alone 10-15 goals I set in December, when I didn’t even know the day. After a month in I, like most get swept up in living life that we forget about the excitement of new year’s resolutions and I guess the novelty of it all wears off. Which is when I have a couple of days of ignorant bliss, until someone rudely asks me how my resolutions are going, and I have to admit that this year is not going to be the year I ‘read X amount of books’. Ultimately my yearly goals end up being a monthly goal (which is better than nothing) then I go back to my normal life, so why I am setting year goals that don’t last and defeats the whole point.

SO, YOU MAY BE ASKING, WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO INSTEAD?

I’m going to bin off the yearly goals and strip it down to one monthly habit/ goal that I would like to implement into my life and that is way more achievable. I’m thinking of it as a to-do list (I love lists) that I can write down and schedule into my day. For example, drinking a pint of water when I wake up or read 10 pages of my book before bed. My thoughts behind it are entwining it into my day-to-day schedule will help me not forget (I get prompts on my phone too) and I’m more likely to do it if it’s a small easy goal. If I forget one day or it’s not working then that’s fine, at least I’ve given it a go, no pressure.

Thank you for coming to me Ted Talk haha, let me know in the comments what’s your 2021 goals and what’s your thoughts on setting new year resolutions?

Alisha xoxo

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2 thoughts on “Why I haven’t made any new year’s resolutions

  1. I love your perspective, Alisha! The idea of keeping your goals more targeted and achievable is awesome 🙂 I set a few achievable goals and a few stretches, but I’m trying to keep in mind that 2021 is gonna be rough and I’m not defined by whether or not I check something off a list!!

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